Another broken promise.Sorry I have excuses

Ok look. I know I have been promising some new content and updates and yes an end to the political propaganda but I am honesty held up by two major events that are on the cusp of occurring right now and so until they have come to pass then I'm going to wait before putting anything outspoken up here.

A few things I do want to address and some questions I have been holding up on answering.

1- This website and onemansjourney or fatjewguy.com as you now know it is moving away from being just a gastric bypass political obesity issues whatever blog and is going to morph into being a more standard personal blog. I'll be speaking about many of the same issues but only from a personal basis. I've been posting content on a few different blogs that have been outdated, trying to consolidate where I was going to devote my energy (what spare I have) and each of my previous pages have each had their own targets. Humor, professional or other issues. So I have chosen this blog to morph into my personal one. It will still contain personal issues as it relates to gastric bypass and whatnot but only as it related to me personally. More on that and a new blog/site yet to come that seeks to have a dialog with people from all ends of the spectrum that speaks directly about issues of obesity, weight loss surgery and sociological weight issues.

If you are interesting in being a contributor for this new blog to come please contact me.

2- I have been hit by a number of questions about my admittedly heavy hand when it comes to comment moderation or to put it directly. I more often then not choose not to publish comments but rather answer them directly and actually prefer people to email me rather then allow discussions to take place in the comments area. I still leave it open for the people who haven't been able to find ways to email me or just are not interested in doing so but 99.9% of the time that comment will go unpublished and will be answered by me directly. The reason for this is rather simple. On a great many blogs, I feel that the dialogs or debates that occasionally occur around posts that are particularity sensitive take away from the actual post that leads the discussion. Hence, the inevitable flame wars in my mind detract from the whole thing. Normally if I get a particularly good comment or email I'll make that its own post. So there is the answer to that question.


3- The thing with Junk food Science- That one generated a lot of people asking the same thing. Yes, it was I.. How many Mark Blei's that write about this stuff can there possibly be? I did not link or comment on that article that Sandy posted until I drafted a reply to someone in the post today. That article the one that had the email with my name on it was not discussed here prior to today because I had nothing to add to what she said past the correspondence we exchanged and she publish with my permission . I still don’t have anything to add to it other then in the post below which was actually drafted more then a month ago . I did not nor do I think I have to validate what she wrote on her site by commenting any further then I have on what was in her article on her website even if it did have my name on it. I was not going out of my way to not mention her post before today. I just thought it stood by itself without any additional commentary required by me

Let me be clear it was I and was published with my permission. The materials stands by itself I have nothing else to add or say about it. . It was what it was; she didn’t change a word of mine when she published our correspondence so that being the case what else were any of you waiting for? It seems like some people think I needed to re address what was already addressed on her site. What am I missing?

4- A number of people and this may relate to something in the news I have missed have asked me if I count calories. So the answer is yes and no. I struggle in between being both ok with the way I am and not living in constant fear of having a weight gain. But I also do live in constant fear of a weight gain and would be lying to you if I said I did not. Mostly the last three years or so I spend my time worrying about the fact that I am not eating enough am underweight or malnourished and for the most part that is where my energy goes on foodstuff. . But there have been times or weeks when I have had my weight jump past my personal comfort level. What my personal comfort level is has nothing at all to do with what would theoretically be a healthy weight for me it's a personal thing that may in fact have some issues rooted in a small case of body dimorphia. The honest to god truth is I haven’t gone through all this bullshit to be overweight again…not even technically. The BMI index says that at 6 feet (I’m 5, 11 and three quarters. So close enough.) my normal BMI should be between 18.5 and 24.9 to remain in the normal range. This means at a weigh of 184 lbs I fall into being technically overweight.

I hang out at between 171 and 179 lbs. When I have been either very good about nutrition or very bad about junk food I have had times where I have had a jump up into the 180’s in fact I’m there at the moment (due to some great soup that was made specifically to help me put on a few pounds as well as a bad run with Reese’s pieces candy .. I know it sounds like a joke but it is not) Anyway that run put me into the 180’s. Before anyone starts I know that’s still regarded as small for a six foot guy. My fiancée would prefer me at 200 Lbs to be truthful and I also know that a great deal of that weight could be extra skin and I know that most people, I included think that BMI chart was developed somewhere in Auschwitz .

I don’t fucking care. I’m not gong to be in any way technically overweight for any reason after this fucking hell I’ve put myself through and so if get near the 180 lbs mark I start counting calories because there’s a good way to take off pounds which is a slow decline that keeps me eating and just consuming less then I burn. Being an office guy I don’t get out much and living in a cold weather country well, let just say that winters are long .so the good way takes a long time and is hard and requires me to count calories to make sure I have enough but not to much . The easy way is just to stop eating. This happens of it’s own accord enough that I don’t encourage that in my body, when I lose weight that way I’m actually losing muscle mass so it’s a balance and when I need to go back from 180 to the 170’s I’ll count calories and try and slowly decline so I don’t lose mass. That is the only reason I will ever count calories though and I suggest that you don’t either count calories or use the BMI chart but rather be healthy. What I say and what I do obviously are two differing things. I allow myself to be human.

5- Last thing. Many people who write me ask me for exact things from my surgical record. How much distal or how much proximal or how large exactly is my pouch, how much intestine and cut from the beginning of the tract or the end of it what about this or that nerve or method. I have no clue at all nor am I interested in knowing what the measurements are and what is where is not going to change anything at this point and would only be important if I was seeking a revision which scares me just less then signing on for experimental combined brain, heart and testicular surgery. I’m sure someone has it somewhere that it can be gotten from, but it is of no real use for me to look at what has been done because it’s not going to change. I use my weight and blood work combined with nutrition in order to determine what changes I need to make and then try and change them and I then either succeed or don’t.

I know many people put stock into how much of what was cut off and where but frankly it gives me the creeping willies to know exactly how much of me is laying in a dump in New Jersey somewhere so I don’t ask those questions nor do I have a copy of my surgical records on hand that I can quote you from. Frankly, I do not even know where one of my surgeons is . He decided I’m told that he no longer wanted to be a Doctor according to a secretary at my nurse practitioners old office though he still appears on the practice website. (Maybe they guy just never wants to see me again. The feeling is mutual), the other one who was a nice guy, and who I wished were my primary moved his practice way far away from where I was in NY when I had my surgery done to Long Island.

I’ll come back and say more as soon as I can. I have a move coming end of this month and as I said at the start am waiting on some official things to occur before I start talking more definitely about future plans.

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